From: Ferd Sebastian

Offence Lesson

  • The act of causing anger, resentment, displeasure, or affront.
  • The state of being offended.

Matt 11:2-7

  1. Now when John had heard in the prison the works of Christ, he sent two of his disciples,
  2. And said unto him, Art thou he that should come, or do we look for another?
  3. Jesus answered and said unto them, Go and shew John again those things which ye do hear and see:
  4. The blind receive their sight, and the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, and the deaf hear, the dead are raised up, and the poor have the gospel preached to them.
  5. And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me.
  6. And as they departed, Jesus began to say unto the multitudes concerning John, What went ye out into the wilderness to see? A reed shaken with the wind?

John was in prison. He was offended that Jesus did not come and get him out. In verse 2) he had heard of the works of Jesus. He had also baptized Jesus and saw the Heavens open up and heard God declare Jesus as His Son, in who He was well pleased. John knew who Jesus was. In a smart-alecky way he was saying, "Hey, Jesus ... Remember me?"

So John was being snide or cute when he asked if Jesus was the one. John was offended that Jesus did not run right over and get him out of jail.

Matt 18:7 Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh! (KJV)

So to be offended by someone is blocking your blessing. The opposite is what you will get. Woe! Look at the NIV,

Matt 18:7 "Woe to the world because of the things that cause people to sin! Such things must come, but woe to the man through whom they come! NIV

Look what they are calling offence, sin and it is ... You could be offended by what the Pastor said in a sermon. He might not even have been talking about you. You could get offended by a greeter, not smiling and giving you a hug ... Maybe you wore a new dress or suit and no one noticed. Again you could be offended. You would be mad and the devil would start working on your mind. You might even leave that Church and never come back. Then you would start backbiting and be telling everyone what a bad Church that was ... This could also happen where you work. What if your wife or husband said something wrong? If you were offended you will say, "I will show them. I will not speak to them for a few days." Then your mate may be offended at you. From there you argue, anger takes hold and you decide to separate. Offence is the devil's playground. He will be in control and you will have forgotten Jesus. Exactly what the devil wanted.

Job 5:2 For wrath kills the foolish man, and envy slays the silly one.

How do you fight against being offended? You do what the Bibles says to do.

Matt 6:14-15

  1. For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
  2. But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

How do you forgive an oversight? Just think of it no more. Forget it. It was probably not even done on purpose.

How do you forgive a word spoken carelessly directly to you. Answer back with a cheerful word of God. "Like bless you brother, have a great day." If you think the offence was made deliberately then ... Matt 5:39 But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. Then my suggestion is say, "I'm sorry, have a blessed day." Then move on to another place. Do not let anger take hold.

You ever hear the devil made me do it. Well that is who is trying to control your mind. To cause controversy, divisiveness, and stress in your life.

2 Cor 10:3-5

  1. For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh:
  2. (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;)
  3. Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

You see you are thinking of these things, letting them build up in your mind. If you think too long on them you build up a strong hold. It will become an obsession with you. So you must control those thoughts and cast them out. How do you do that? Think on other things. (try counting to 50, at 20 start saying your name and address. What happened to your counting? It stopped. You can not think on two things at once.)

Phil 4:8-9

  1. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
  2. Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.

Look how Paul and Silas handled offence. This is also your best course of action.

Acts 16:23-26

  1. And when they had laid many stripes upon them, they cast them into prison, charging the jailor to keep them safely:
  2. Who, having received such a charge, thrust them into the inner prison, and made their feet fast in the stocks.
  3. And at midnight Paul and Silas prayed, and sang praises unto God: and the prisoners heard them.
  4. And suddenly there was a great earthquake, so that the foundations of the prison were shaken: and immediately all the doors were opened, and every one's bands were loosed.

They did not moan and curse the one who beat them. They did not accuse God of not saving them. They had good reason to be offended. Instead they prayed and sang praises to God and everyone heard them. Then God came on the scene and delivered them.

Think what would have happened if John had praised God for all the work that Jesus was doing. And sang of His greatness. If John told the men to go find Jesus and tell Him "Praise God the King has come." I believe the prison would be broken apart and John would have went with the men to tell Jesus himself. John did not and he was beheaded.

The absolute worst offence is to be offended at God. That is what John was.

Luke 7:23 Jesus said, "And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me."

You see there that if you are not offended at God, you are blessed. If you are, the opposite is true, You are not blessed.

Psalm 119:165 Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.

So if you love the Lord and His ways, you have great peace. So you see, offence disturbs your peace.

How could we be offended at God, Jesus or the Holy Spirit? Easy ... You lost a loved one and blamed God. Your prayers are not answered fast enough or not the way that you want them to be answered. Why do these thing happen? Because sometimes you cannot see the full picture. You may be in sin or God may have a another plan for your life.

Prov 3:5-6

  1. Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
  2. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

So believe on God's word and do not be offended at it.

John 6:29 Jesus answered and said unto them, "This is the work of God, that ye believe on Him whom He hath sent."

Proverb 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

And here is the most perfect way to win in every situation ... WWJD. What would Jesus do. He would walk in love, Jesus was offended many times, yet He did not let it stop His work. Jesus, greatest offence came on the cross. He was beaten, cursed, spit on, and nailed to a cross to die. Yet what did He do? He said, Luke 23:34, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.

Certainly we can forgive a miss spoken word ... Ferd@2jesus

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